I lost my husband after 47 years together. This sub has helped me so much and all the wonderful people here. But losing someone after a lifetime together is different (for me). I did not experience the anger of being robbed, the anguish of lost dreams, the exhaustion of raising children alone. I am sorry that someone made you feel so awful. We are not in a competition with each other. I come here to find the courage and grace to face a new day with all of its challenges. But mostly I am here because some people have a gift to articulate what I am feeling. They just nail it. And then I don’t feel so alone. Wishing you peace on this terrible road. And I am so sorry for your loss.