I'm pretty 'type A' so my opinion may be skewed.

I'm currently 17 ish weeks pregnant. I went through sickness during the first trimester and up until week 15. But I took steps to mitigate it. I got meds from my midwife and was overall a functioning human during that time.

I didn't call off work once. I can count on one hand the amount of days I laid around doing nothing. I'll admit it's tough some days... sometimes I go to work, come home, and all I have the energy to do is feed the dog dinner and lay on the sofa.

But I don't use my pregnancy as an excuse to do nothing, ever. I'm pregnant, not disabled. We wanted this baby. I knew it would be physically and mentally exhausting at times. My husband is very sympathetic (and accommodating!) on my bad days. But I still hold myself accountable. I clean up after myself, go to work, get my share of the house work done, go grocery shopping and help care for the garden and animals.

But that was the expectation my husband and I set for each other. Bad days will happen, but for the most part its business as usual.

I feel like you should have had a conversation about expectations when she was like, 6 weeks along. Did you guys agree that she wouldn't work? That she didn't have to help maintain the home? That you would hire help for her bad days?