I'm a long time Reddit lurker, and I actually created an account just to comment on this. Here is a Red Pill Woman's perspective. My man is absolutely my Captain. We're RP as can be (I used to just think of it as traditional, but RP fits us pretty well.) But the thing is, in order for a woman to joyously submit to her captain, he has to be a good leader. And in relationships, just like at work, a good leader has to know when to sacrifice to look out for those he's responsible for. I keep our house spotless and cook homemade meals and take care of our children, and that is my job that I'm fully committed too. But every once in a while, my husband comes home and I'm frazzled and the house is messier than I like, and being the good leader that he is, he knows that I need help for a moment, and he doesn't make it a fight. Rather, he takes stock of the situation and then leads us all back to where we need to be. If you want to be the leader, you have to understand that it's not all about you. If you're the leader in your family, there are two other people (your wife and son) that need you to actually lead, which sometimes means being there and stepping in when things get rough.