I don't think avoiding confrontation is necessarily negative because I also have a mom and most of the time, it's just not worth it.

One time I was helping my mom complete a household task and suggested we do it some other day. She flipped out on me saying "just because you went to college doesn't mean you know everything!", stormed off glaring at me, then called everyone in the family to let them know how much of a smug bitch I was for the next 3 hours.

The next day she asks for my help again. WTF!? Then she does it my way. WTF!? And she says "wow, I'm glad I ended it doing it this way!" WTF!? So I "confront" her because WTF are you insane, bitch?! I say, "Mom, that's exactly what I suggested yesterday and you screamed at me!" She says "No you didn't!" What do you mean no you didn't? I remember because it was yesterday and you screamed at me. "I didn't scream at you!" What!? Yes you did. "You're just sensitive! Why do you think I'm always screaming!" You called me a smug bitch. "Okay, you're being ridiculous now..."

So in the "confrontation" she literally denies everything, blames me for being a whiney baby, and doesn't apologize so now I'm really wondering... Did I not remember that completely crazy situation that literally happened a day ago? It's possible I guess I overreacted... Maybe I was a smug bitch? Oh god, does everyone think I'm a bitch? I should be extra nice to my mom if she thinks I'm a bitch and I don't even know it! Should I buy her a gift?

rinse and repeat your whole life until you see through the fog. but beware, nobody else will understand your choices because "it's faaaaamily"

Sorry this got long.