Do that. Step back and take a smaller role in her life. Move out if that would make it easier. I wouldn't invest much in building a life partnership with someone who isn't investing the same amount or in the same vision. Anxious attachment is typical of peoiple who are dependent rather than proactive in their own lives. Start making your own priorities independently of her, even if they move you away from a life with her. It is better to proactively shape your own life than staying emotionally dependent on someone who is not committing to a shared vision. I would possibly prioritize moving out to facilitate this change in perspective if I were in yiour shoes.