I think there's a counterpoint to be made here. Being the "household manager" is obviously a massive chore and it's unfair that one partner generally takes it on; however, it's also a position of power. There aren't many situations in which people feel the right to give their partners grief like they do for household tasks (look up the hamburger meat story if you want an example of this).

If you don't want to be the manager, you have to also relinquish the control of being able to tell your partner how something should be done. It either becomes their domain, and therefore their decision, or a matter for discussion between equals. I think this is often hard for women to do because of the bullshit stereotype that the domestic realm is their responsibility and any lapse in that area reflects badly on them.