Why are you shaming this woman and picking her apart for asking a question? She has been in a relationship for almost 10 years and is grieving for that loss. Her dream of living out her old age with this man is gone. It's devastating, and likely the post is coming from a place of desperation and longing for the dream.
My issue is that her "questions" are how to keep a guy who wants to leave. Yes she owned him for 10 years, more reason to say she's had enough time, let him fucking go.
Oh her dream? Poor her. Yes what she wants should override him wanting to leave.
Again, somehow it's only wrong when it's a guy trying to "keep" a woman.
At least try to have some empathy for a person who is quite obviously in a process of grieving. She will have to work through stages and the first is often denial. This process will involve working on herself which you seem to think she needs to do.
Oh yes, she is greiving. She is the victim. He is wrong for wanting to leave, can't he see how he hurts her? Oh I must have no empathy.
Give her a break. It's likely that they have joint financial commitments, maybe they live together and they've taken separate beds, they might have animals or children to think about, or the crushed dream of children to mourn. Please don't bully this woman.
Bully this woman? So was it bullying the kid when we all decided to tell him to stop trying to force his love on others? Why can we not say this to her? Oh right. So marriage is the reason?
I see. She pressured him to sign a contract therefor it's OK to try to trick him into spending HIS life entirely for her.
All that anybody wants is to feel loved.
If this manipulation and ownership and one sided humanity and empathy is what you call "love" then I'll stay without it. Your kind of "love" only leads to a guy who commits suicide and a woman happy to spend all his money. Oh nut they had pets and kids (same to her) so it doesn't matter if he wants to leave.
Oh I should have empathy for this woman who's only crime is wanting to keep "her man when he wants to leave.
I'm sorry, I appreciate you trying to help me understand but hearing your defense of her just pushes me farther to the other side.
Just because she's a woman, she and only she deserves our empathy here. I'm sorry, I empathize with the one wanting to be free, not the one deciding that her comfort is all that matters.