This is my first reddit post/comment/whatever, so if I'm super awkward or mess up etiquette, you have my apologies.
I'm a cis woman, and my boyfriend is trans. I met him on a dating website (surprise surprise) and I honestly didn't know he was trans until I got to a small part in his profile that told me so. So, I read about what it meant to be trans. What to say, what not to say...because, honestly, he's cute as hell and a huge nerd, what's not to love? I had absolutely zero experience with trans...anything (which is part of the reason I'm reading these threads) but I was crazy about him, so I wanted to educate myself and make sure I didn't screw anything up. Things have been pretty smooth sailing for the most part, six months later. We just moved in together a couple of weeks ago, and honestly I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else.
What I'm trying to contribute here, not so fluidly, is that there have got to be more women like me (if women are who you're into...Whomever.) I've always, ALWAYS been more interested in how you'll make me laugh rather than what you necessarily look like, and it has nothing to do with gender in particular. The guys that I've dated all look so different from one another, it's crazy....from 5 feet tall to 6'8", 120lbs to 350lbs. Sometimes, women really DO care more about what is on the inside.
Now, I'm not sure how to word this next part because I really don't want to upset or offend anyone, but as far as the sex goes (because I'm pretty sure that's what would be brought up next) yeah I was nervous as hell. He and I talked before hand about what was ok and what was not ok, what things are called and how to identify areas, and I also might have looked up a few pointers as to how I might be able to satisfy someone who is trans, and I'll tell you now that I've never had such a sexually satisfying relationship in my life, and I think it's BECAUSE of all the communication...before, during and afterward. I wanted to be sure that I respected all of his boundaries, and he was also so sweet and considerate to my own newness to the situation.
So I guess what I'm trying to say there is when you find the right person, they will want to make things work just as much as you do. Be open and honest, only to the degree that your comfortable with, and try to be patient and understand that they are probably just as nervous/unsure as you are.