MY drunk two cents:

Going off of your post, sounds like you've been making a solid effort to make the relationship work, but you feel like your efforts are going unnoticed and are making little difference. This is what I've pulled out about you, but a majority of your text post is focused on your SO. Is this reflected in your relationship, too?

Consider how you're doing in the relationship. Do you believe this relationship is adding things to your life? To your emotional well-being, to your state of happiness?

If you feel that you are no longer gaining, but that you are still giving, then it's time to reconsider the relationship. And reconsidering isn't bad! Sounds like ya'll need to reconsider what you both want out of the relationship. My best advice would be to sit down and ask each other just that. Black and white. What does she want, and what do you want. Tell her what you want.

Sounds like that could be recognition when she notices that you're making an effort to include her in your decisions, or maybe it's just not shutting down when you're having a minor quarrel.

If you want to make this relationship work, the communication has to open up. You both can't just keep getting upset at each other, yo.