doghouse,

How are you holding up? What you're describing sounds very painful and even traumatic. I think anybody would be under a lot of pain and sadness to have gone through this. Offering guitar lessons sounds like a really enjoyable way to help others pursue their interests while helping make ends meet. I'm terribly sorry that something that was supposed to be fun turned into this. Terribly sorry. It might not mean much but if you ever need somebody to talk to please let me know.

I just wanted to say that it takes tremendous strength to talk about this. Thank you for choosing to come forward and take the initiative to help yourself. But please take a moment to acknowledge that you are not required to talk or type about what happened if you do not want to. And I mean that for anyone. It's okay if you prefer to not talk about things with your parents, your fiancée, or anyone at all during this moment. You're clearly going through a rough time and hurting right now. There is nothing wrong with looking after your own welfare and doing whatever is best for you.

I'm sure that you love your fiancée very much, and that you would prefer to be on the same team together and get through this as a couple. So of course you would prefer to tell the story to her as many times as it took for her to believe you, even if it hurts so much to even type about it. But you do not need to feel bad or as though you've wronged her if you need to look after your own health and take a moment if only to unwind a bit. You didn't do the wrong thing. Being in pain and choosing it walk away for some fresh air isn't anything wrong to be ashamed of. So take a moment to carefully think about your options and select whichever choice is best for you. You may talk about it to get things off your chest. You may back away and not talk about it if you would prefer. You can do whatever you feel is comforting and relaxing.

Does your fiancée have anyone to talk to about this herself? Do you have other people in your life besides your fiancée to talk with? Maybe she could consider speaking with somebody about what occurred, be it with the officer you filed the report with, the doctor you've seen, or another therapist for herself. Maybe you could choose to speak about what's going on in your relationship with a therapist yourself. Please feel more than free to ask your doctor about referral services. Remember that it does take remarkable strength to talk about this and pursue a good way to handle this situation. There are countless people out there who would appreciate that initiative and assist you navigating this ordeal while in a judgement free environment. Just take a moment to consider that.

Try to hang in there, alright? I know things are difficult now but you deserve to be okay and to get through this.