Me [35 M] with my wife [35 F] of 10 years, I think it's likely her illness is somatoform, not sure what to do.

With all due respect, fuck off.

a) I take my wife's symptoms, her diseases and her mental health very seriously.

b) I see a counselor, yes in part to better cope with the stress of my wife's long-term diseases (and unwillingness to explore avenues of treatment if they involve mental health)

c) I have never undercut my wife nor called her "crazy." There is no shame in having a mental health disorder.

She has fought this disease for more than 5 years. She has seen I don't know how many doctors, has been put under at least half a dozen times. I have driven her to appointments, dealt with all the body fluids, bandage changes, etc. that have been involved. You don't know shit about this, but my wife knows I take her seriously. I take her health seriously and I take her mental health seriously.

She just refuses to go into therapy is all. And my opinion, despite my obvious support and love over all of this, simply doesn't have much sway over hers ... so yeah, it's a little frustrating.

I'm not saying it will make her symptoms necessarily disappear.

I'm just saying I think it might help, and her doctors have agreed with me.

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