Consensus=/= guidelines. Just because it's not written policy doesn't mean it's not the sub culture. There's a general tone of self loathing and misandry that permeates most if not all discussion on the sub.
You literally had two "I'm ashamed of having sexual feelings" threads in as many weeks, both with hundreds of comments. Any thread about positive masculinity is a lot of hemming and hawing and handwringing about how harmful bad masculinity is and how any positive traits of masculinity are also expressed by women so they're not really masculine (but any negative traits are totally emblematic of how toxic and dangerous it is).
I've also seen a lot of threads get burned to the goddamn ground by you and your mod team for stepping out of line and saying maybe men do have some systemic issues that aren't their fault and that maybe something need done about it.