I know from my own experience that this is not the case for me. I did not love my boyfriend at first and neither did he love me at first. However, our passion for each other grew so did our love. I fell for him first and if you ask anybody I had no reason to fall for him. He was a stoner, and there was nothing really special about him. He didn't have a high social standing and wasn't really popular with girls. But the more I talked to him I began to see many things that I would want in future captain. Even though other people(girls) couldn't understand why? I had fell in love and it didn't make any sense. Our story came with lots of bumps on the road and time apart. But I always waited I knew he was the one for me. How we ended up together is a miracle, but my current boyfriend grew to respect me. I was not his ideal type at all, but he respected me and then fell in love with me. Maybe we are the outlier or not. I just truly believe that love is a greater force than we like to believe.