I feel like the vast majority of this subs userbase is in that lucky HL state of mind.
In real life, I rarely meet women that have a large sexual apatite, a hunger to give blowjobs, or be really intimate in general.
Hell I'm gonna be honest, I think I've met like 3 couples that were married more than 5 years that still even had sex in my life.
Sure on Reddit if you fill a sub with sex positive people and they all echo chamber their feelings and beliefs off of each other, normal humans come here and go "What the...?" because this is not how "most" of society and relationships operate.
I remember asking my uncle, who was a really successful divorce attorney, how to avoid a divorce, back when I was young and thought he had like, the magic crystal ball. I laughed at his response when I was young and figured it was an inside joke I didn't understand, but as I age, I see the wisdom in his words. Here's about how the conversation went:
"So how does one have a successful marriage? What are the common things you see in successful marriages?" - Me
"Well they like to say that 50% of marriages end in divorce, but it's closer to 90%, the common thing is for a man keeping your job, for a woman it's keeping your libido."
And 14 year old me was going "Uncle, what's a libido?"
"Sex drive my boy, a sex drive!" he laughs as he says it
"What's that?"
"Some women, about 90% of them actually, don't like sex Son, no body knows why, and nobody seems to be able to fix it, if you get lucky to find a 10% girl, marry her, they are the only ones even worth getting married to, but they cheat more, so you kinda have to choose between a woman that likes sex A LOT, and women that like divorce instead of sex."
Later when I was in my 20's I asked him to clarify, like, why did he tell me that. He said he still stands by it, and that he wanted me to know from a young age that sex was important and that I should avoid women who dislike it. So far that's been impossible Uncle. RIP. I failed and I'm sorry.
I have had 10+ girls that I've dated in my life, I've dated religious girls, atheists, CC girls, Uni girls, C level professionals (Don't bother...), nice girls, mean girls, not so pretty girls, girls who could have been models, emotional girls, girls that never cried in a movie and laughed at girls who did, girls that were alcoholics, girls that hated alcohol, girls that loved pot, girls that hated pot, and even a recovering Ecstasy addict once. I've mostly dated girls that seemed honest, smart enough, and kind. Those are my requirements.
Know what I got? Each one cheated on me, each one went sexually stale, and each one eventually pulled a "Oh you were gone at work so I took all my sht and most of your sht and it's now my sht, bye I was never happy!"
And then they hit me up years later going "Oh ya I was so dumb, sorry about that, I totally cheated on you way more than I admitted to, but I hadn't like, 'found' myself yet, I dated a bunch of abusive guys, got a gun held to my head, have a restraining order against my ex husband, etc, I now have 2 kids that are fatherless and was wondering if you're still available?"
Um..... NO.
Don't know why I went off on such a damn tangent, but, your comment made me suddenly relive all that crap, your one comment sums up my entire dating and adult relationship history.
I truly hope I meet a great, kind, and SEXUAL woman someday, that does things like this for me, in the same way that I work day in and day out to provide her with a roof, food, vehicles, and a good life. Someday...
Or not, and I'll just start dating 18 year old morons because we know they will go after anything 30+ that has money, sadly it'd be hollow, but at least they'd TRY.