For you redmolly I will break it down probably more than I should. After we moved closer to her family, and I realized how crazy her family was, were talking sexual abuse, physical abuse, drugs and alcohol. In 2013 her nephew tried to molest my daughter, and my wife said she would handle it. She did nothing but hide it, just like when her uncle molested her. After finding out she hid it, I wanted a divorce. So I packed my bags and headed to Canada to my mother's so I could sort things out. After 2 days she called and said if you do not return home you will never see your child again. Upon my return I received family court papers in which she lied saying I threatened to kidnap my child and bring to Canada to my Indian reservation. At our court hearing, the judge and her father's good friend didn't believe the story, he gave is 50/50. I stayed in the miserable marriage for 3 more years. During that time I attempted to make her happy at all cost. I got her everything she wanted. April of this year, her sister and sisters husband were staying with us, in the house I bought. I found they were doing drugs in the house, my STBXW was supplying them with money for good stamps. I kicked both of them out of the house. My wife became enraged with me and actually hit me with a 2x4 leaving a big bruise on my arm. I called the police and they didn't do anything. A day later after another argument I left the house and took a drive to gather my thoughts on how to proceed. I was gone an hour. She took the kids and went to a shelter claiming abuse. Then I get a restraining order in the mail. So for my own safety I left the house, went to a relatives 130 miles away. After receiving the court papers from family court, she filed 4 times and all but the last were rejected. Low and behold she states that I threatened to kidnap my children and bring them to Canada, the druggie sister backed her up in the claim. At court the judge wouldn't listen saying it would be plausible, I told never in a million years would I kidnap my children and that is all she can use, due to the fact my children are covered under the Indian welfare act. I was granted two 8 hours a week of supervised visits that her family never accommodated. So I retained an attorney, had everything rolled up into divorce court, and the new judge ordered the unsupervised visits at the YMCA. She was supposed to drop off the kids and pick them up, nope she sits there and watches the entire time, and when my kids talk to me l,they look at her prior to speaking. I also get a phone calls and she monitors them, so I keep it simple with my children. I don't want them to suffer , like my one daughter did in July, when she tried to tell me my youngest almost drowned and had to be saved by the lifeguard. They were under the care of the drug addict sister. Also during our phone calls my oldest has told me she doesn't have a father, and I am not her father. It hurts so bad to know that my children have to live through this, I am also very fearful of my STBXW and that is saying something as I was a CO in one of our state's toughest jails. She will use every tool she can in an attempt to get everything in the divorce, and re dad part is I would give to her if I could see my children more often.