I'm working through a problem right now. Our oldest son is a very behaved kid. It's just that my wife doesn't know how to communicate with him very well. I can't be involved in all of it as I need my sanity, but it's getting tough hearing her struggle with him as I never do. I am a stay at home dad, so I've learned how to handle him. I've also learned from my childhood on how to NOT be a parent.

I don't argue with my son and don't stress. My wife is the opposite. I don't understand. Just tonight she couldn't get his clothes on. She threw her hands up and left him in just his diaper.

I was feeding the twins. I saw the accident incoming. I try my best to let her handle situations, but I knew I couldn't. Diaper came off and then began the yelling. I told her to take the twins and feed them. I didn't have to say a word to my son. I walked by him, rubbed his head and he followed me to his changing table. I picked him up, put everything on with out any struggle.

It's hard, because we are in the first weeks of our twins. I'm personally afraid she's not going to get the hang of not fighting with a two year old and not stressing like the world is going to burn down. I'm not going to get to relax. She's currently getting 2 hours down time at night and then 6 hours of sleep while I'm on the night shift. I'm getting 5 hours with no downtime except when I dissapear off to the bathroom.

Any time I try and explain talking to a two year old is pointless, I hurt her feelings. I feed the twins every time they stir. Then have to hear about why I don't just let them have a pacifier and stay down longer. Meanwhile the twins just ate 3 more ounces each.

We went through this before with our first son. Babies do NOT have a set feeding schedule. They do nothing but sleep and eat. If they are awake, they are hungry. You feed them.

I don't know. The dichotomy in our household is I'm some sort of baby whisperer. It's just patience.