My husband farts a lot. One of the medications he's on has gas and digestive issues as side effects, so it's mostly out of his control. He farts in his sleep. He farts when we're watching tv. He farts when we're having a conversation. It's a fact of life in our household.

I will admit that it sometimes annoys me. When we're laying in bed using our iPads and he lets out a loud fart, sometimes I roll my eyes. But I would never be angry at him about it. I don't like smelling his gas and I don't particularly like hearing it either, but he's my husband and I love him so it's just one of those things that I've learned to deal with. I don't like the fact that he leaves his socks on the floor a foot from the hamper either, but there are a million other things that make him a wonderful husband so I just pick up the damn socks myself. I know he doesn't do it on purpose. He's just kind of absent minded. The farts are kind of the same in some ways.

Could he probably go to another room or try to be quieter most of the time? Yes, he probably could (though I realize it isn't possible all the time for him). Part of me just doesn't understand why he can't pass gas more quietly like I can (he's really effing loud), but at least he says excuse me the vast majority of the time. So I understand where your wife is coming from (to a point), but if she's chosen your farting as her hill to die on then maybe there are other things that are bothering her in the marriage that make it harder to just deal with the fact that you're gassy. I find that my husband's farts annoy me a lot more when I'm already a little frustrated with him for some other reason.

That said, being angry at you for farting in your sleep is ridiculous. Waking you up over it is REALLY ridiculous and completely irrational. It's possible that she just really hates farts, but it seems more likely to me that something else in your relationship is bothering her so she has a harder time accepting your gas as a natural bodily function rather than some rude action you're doing to (in her mind) purposely piss her off.