I want to preface this by saying he's definitely an asshole. That being said he's 100% trying to get you to lose weight. It was never about you both being "healthier" he wants you to lose weight because he feels he will find you more attractive. Recently my family decided that my father needs to lose weight as he's actually at a very unhealthy bmi. He actually asked for our help and told us in the beginning that he'd fight us on it as he has bad self control. We started by saying that we should all eat healthy. And my mother asked for him to cook meals (as he's the chef in the family" with no carbs similarly to what he did with you. He would then make two dishes similarly to you as he felt it was a compromise. We too then had to start making comments about his excessive snacking and unhealthy eating habits. He kept reiterating how he's an adult and can choose what he eats in one moment then agree with us later. Finally we also threw out all the unhealthy food. My point in saying all this is I've been on you're boyfriends side in all this and I can honestly say... He's a fucking prick. We did it because my dad's doctor warned him about his health problems and he actually needed a form of tough love. His eating habits were actually unhealthy and while he is an adult he clearly lacked the self control to fix them. We never said anything disrespectful like you're boyfriend does. Meanwhile you're at a healthy weight, have healthy eating habits and didn't ask for this. You don't need or want someone coaching you on what you eat and his intentions are not to make you healthier but to make you a weight that he will find more attractive (which in some ways is actually less healthy). The way I see it your options are break up or say "bf I'm not stupid, I know that you have even trying to get me to lose weight. The fact is I like the weight i am currently at, it is a healthy weight I like to be able to eat carbs from time to time. if you have a problem with my weight then I think we should break up because I do not plan on changing it and I will not have my food controlled anymore."