Thanks for the advice. I think it came out as a rant, but I really wanted someone else's advice, hence why I posted in the relationship advice thread.

We do go out on dates, but I live nearly 40 minutes from his house to driving back and forth is not really an option.

That's why I feel so awkward about it, I realize totally where they are coming from because I feel like the information hasn't reached them. When I contribute to the shop my boyfriend just pays and doesn't say it's from me, or I help him cook for everyone and they just think it's him.

I'm not planning on coming at them anyway, and thats why I wrote on here, because I really want them to like me and I'm mostly defensive because I feel super embarrassed that I came across this way to them. I just genuinely feel like I have been trying to do the things that they think I'm not - so obviously whatever I'm doing isn't getting through to them like the first person who responded wrote.

I can't afford to contribute to rent because I already pay rent and utilities at my own place, so again as the person above mentioned, just really have to stop going over there and making the no car problem my problem. I am in no way planning on making it so awkward that he has to move out and it's a priority to make this situation okay so that he is comfortable with his friends. I just felt a bit attacked for things that I purposely was making an effort to not do and wanted an outside perspective on the situation. Especially since the anti social situation is coming from the 5 mins I pop in and out after work.

I just feel like a huge dickhead really. And I want to fix it so that I don't.