Here is the current situation. She is in another city & I have plans to see her in 10-days. We were planning to watch a movie, go out to dinner before valentines at a night restaurant and then had plans for actual valentines night. Things were pretty great yesterday before I made the dumb joke.

Last night the conversation ended with me sending a string of text messages saying how much I loved her/wanted to be with her. Probably made me look pathetic. Then I ended it with telling her goodnight & to call me tomorrow, that'd I'd help her (she couldn't afford to pay subway).

Also, she was expecting to get a check in the mail today which she'd use to pay her bills. Her bills are due today and she needs that check. It was actually suppose to come yesterday but didn't so she said she'd call to find out when it was expected to arrive. I know she'll want me to cash that check as soon as it arrives and I figure she already called them to find out when it will. But she knows I check everyday, so she probably does't feel the need to text me to check, as she knows I will do so.

So here is my predicament:

She hasn't texted/called me. I don't see a reason why she would. She probably thinks I looked pathetic last night after our argument. She probably doesn't want to text me. But I think she will eventually text me and that she may eventually 'come around'.

What should I do?

Here is what I thought,

I thought about not texting/calling her until she contacts me first. Then when she does I thought about saying I understand how stressed out she is trying to find contracts in the city and I didn't want to add onto that so I would be fine staying and not visiting her. But it'd be up to her and I wouldn't be angry either way. Then by her response I could tell whether or not if she actually wanted me to come up there.

I don't want to do this because if she says no, then well, I already wasted my plane ticket and airbnb stays (which I can probably get a refund on) & I may not see her for the next 3 months because in March she is going overseas to work for 3 months. It would be a bad situation for me to not see her that long and have things be left where they are now.

I think the odds are she'd actually want me to come see her as I secured premium spots in the city and it'd free her up from taking the subway everyday and give her a chance to get away from her mom (which she argues with a lot).

But I don't know what to do. I just want to see her in person. I know if I get to see her in person I can work everything out and it'll blow over.

What do you recommend? I'm now in a situation where I probably looked pathetic with the string of last text I sent, she isn't responding and I am suppose to come see her in 10-days + she needs her check cashed.