I like to add to this that of course the leverage that kind of “gift” could have or could try to be used for is going to linger but it could just be some make up cash for the lost time like he admitted. But besides that judgement of morality the question is about you NOW boyfriend so the rest of it I’m should be considered after since this is a post about your relationship with him.

This isn’t particularly my take but some men have a hard time being shown up or what they might perceive being shown up especially when it comes to taking care of the people they love and want to take care of. That being said there is a story chance that your boyfriend very reasonably believes there is a concern for the leverage from your EX as well as just the acceptance of having him in your life and subsequently his life from this point forward and that is at least two MAJOR hurdles for him to jump. First he has to accept that your situation is rough and he can’t help you as much as he would like probably and that is his job as a partner and, for some, as a man and that comes with failing school or not getting a promotion or working hard at a job he hates cause he needs to survive and that is already two layers deep. Second, he has to accept that he is your sons bio father and he has a right to help raise his son and your son has a right to know his bio father (all things permitting your ex isn’t a monster and shouldn’t etc etc) and that is a lot already not to mention that your ex wasn’t around when you started dating and not to mention your son was two when he met his bio father (pardon me if I mathed wrong). On top of that, you will be in constant communication with your ex and that is a lot for some already and on top of that your ex seems to still had feels for you or still does and there is that to deal with AND your ex made a move on you so there is still that to add in. Some guys would have socked him right on the spot no questions asked but maybe he isn’t that kind and just is working through it still and now needs to accept that he is actually in this for the better of your son and the money was kinda the realization that it is real.

Now he shouldn’t have blown up probably and shouldn’t have allowed the convo to snowball away from him like that and he shouldn’t be ignoring you that is for sure but being angry and needing some time seems reasonable for essentially accepting a potential thorn in both your sides for life for the betterment of your son and it is someone he doesn’t really care for. It is a lot.

I’d give him space say hi when you can and remind him that your around when he is ready to talk. I often shut down when it gets to be too much. I often struggle responding even if I want to so maybe that is all it is.

I hope I helped give some perspective on his side since that is always the hardest to see and I hope you all figure it out and I hope your son grows up with the stars in his eyes. Good luck friend!