This stuff is fascinating to me. Noone could pressure me into eating sushi or wearing clogs. But people can be pressured into getting pregnant and keeping the baby by someone else. That boggles my mind. It seems to me the issue isnt necessarily the husbands here, but that society is still producing individuals who do not know how to create and uphold healthy boundaries. Boundaries that are necessary to have if one is to have a semblence of a chance at a healthy and content adulthood where one may be as much in charge of ones life as the life allows.

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Granted its hard to enforce boundaries and it requires sacrifices. Sometimes it requires being lonely and alone for a while.. But if you do not work on having boundaries, and you allow someone else to run your life and make your choices for you. At some point you have to own, you are failing yourself too.. its not just the other person who is also failing to put your first. Your life is ultimately your responsibility. There is no cure for your unhappiness or for the consequences of choices you wish you hadnt made, except to learn not to repeat the same behaviour or enable the dynamics that allowed all the control over your life to be placed in someone elses hands.