I lost both of my parents. This is my first Christmas without the two of them and it hurts. It’s just me and my sister in this big empty house that was meant for a full sized family. Not just two sisters. It’s hard. This Christmas is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in all my life but I wouldn’t have gotten this far without my therapist. She taught me to look for the “joy” moments in life. Those are Small things(it doesn’t matter how small) that make you happy. Actively seeking them out has really helped me start to look forward to starting new days.

Ultimately There’s no shelf life on grief. Don’t let other people tell you how you should feel. You’re absolutely not wrong for feeling that grief. Take each day as it comes is my advice and definitely talk to a professional therapist if that’s something you can do.

Wishing you All the best. I’m so sorry for your loss, I bet your girlfriend was a beautiful person