You are lucky. At least your mom speaks english, and seemingly is able to handle herself independently. example, if you moved out, she would not be destitute financially.
I also stopped believing in islam or being a muslim or any of that crap a long time ago.. Point blank, if I was you, because your situation sounds a shit ton easier than mine, i would just tell your mom too bad so sad, you're going to have to accept me for who i am and my choices. i want to be with this girl, and if you don't like it too bad. And then eventually, she would come around, im pretty sure.. and move out if you have to, and just say if you dont like it then fine im out.
But if you were me, it wouldn't work out so great to just take off, or move out. I have no siblings. My dad died, so my mom clings onto me. She is highly religious/a muslim and wants to get me an arranged marriage. My mom doesn't speak english that well, after 30 years of being in USA. She is getting old, almost 60. Still working some shitty factory or labor job. She has no common sense or willingness to save money. Always giving money away or sending it to some mysterious parties overseas in Pakistan or India. Since I'm not religious, I can't tell her allah is not real, or that there is no god, and that religion is a sham. I couldn't say that because she wouldn't even begin to comprehend it. And if I were to say fuck you im out, then she would not survive. Because she has no common sense. She doesn't know things man. Like to use the remote, to turn on the dvd player, to watch her fuckin bollywood movies.. and the remote doesn't do anything? She is toast man. She waits around for me to fix it. I told her its the batteries, just have to replace the batteries.. Maybe next time it happens, she will figure it out on her own.. but that is what i mean.. what is gonna happen when I move out? She doesn't know how to handle herself. So I have to stay close by. In fact I live with her now.
But im hoping to save up and move out at some point.. which is gonna be tough because I can't fucking keep living with her. She will NOT understand what so ever.. that this is what we do here in the west. We fuckin live on our own man. We get our own god damn space..
Oh and yeah when I move out I'm going to have a most likely non-muslim girlfriend. It's just so many levels of not understanding, or not accepting.. The moment anything goes wrong she says allllllahhhhhhhhh all stretched and drawn out. Doesn't help that I might be trans but choose not to do anything about it, because fuck, how is she going to even accept that let alone understand it. Now im going to come around and visit you as the opposite gender? Fuck me this religion is shit.
I am so jealous of my friends who are white, and their moms are so understanding, they understand the modern world, the western world/society. They tell their kids go off, have fun, enjoy life, come visit me, stay in touch, but don't worry im not gonna hold you back
but not my mom