The adversity comes, at least in signficant part, from the manner she through which she expresses her need to have her mind set at ease. In wanting that, she's ignoring whatever it is that he might want. That's the problem. The guy says it over and over in his post. People here don't seem to want to help him with his problem.

So, what, he says fuck it and gets a divorce? How is this pro-wife wall he's meeting going to yield another outcome? His feelings need to be legitimized so he can reach a point that he's willing to accept that some elements of marriage won't be fair. But this is too one-sided. It has to be addressed. Telling him he's just wrong fixes nothing.

Those are not rational concerns, save for the motorcycle. I know so many old men who are life-long hunters. It is not a dangerous hobby. He gets to have hobbies, dang it. She's just trying to take shit away from him to serve her own needs. That's not how it works!!! come on, you have to see that.

You shouldn't have to deal with a nagging wife who doesn't validate your own need for independence because you think her claims are "rational." That's bullshit. It's like you really think she's his mom.