I'm not projecting. At all. I love when therapy is discussed because people who think they know about therapy automatically go into "projecting". I don't think OP is going to hit his wife. But that doesn't change that the behavior is STILL abusive and your reading comprehension skills are naught. No, i do not need you to feel bad for me, because I went to therapy for it. I received the tools necessary to dissect the behavior and accept it and learn from it. You make so many assumptions about OP and his wife that you're assuming she is lying. We literally have zero idea if she is and you're saying, welp guilty before proven innocent because you can't respect your partner enough to be an adult about the situation. I don't care anymore. You're literally not comprehending what I'm saying. Learn how to actually read :) thanks