I get troll vibes from this post but assuming this was made in good faith, it sounds like your husband is in the anger phase and quite frankly is an idiot for thinking that sending you to this subreddit will solve his problems with you.

My ex husband also decided to take the red pill and it was recently brought to my attention that he's also still stuck in the anger phase.

The problem with the anger phase, is that nobody knows how long this lasts, and there are other subreddits full of men who can't overcome the anger phase. Some let that anger consume them.

My best advice I can give you is to vacate your home and live with someone else for a while. Your husband's behavior is increasingly dangerous to your mental well-being and the way he is going about these demands is quite frankly, not "red pill" at all. First of all TRP is fight club. He's not supposed to be talking about fight club to you. Second of all there are ways for him to get his sexual needs met that don't include adultry, sodomy, or the mental abuse he is divvying out to you. If he can't follow the TRP guides properly and play the long game to get what he wants, then he can wallow in his anger alone without a wife to cook him dinner at night.

If what you're saying is actually going on, then I fear his bitterness becoming physical. Your husband is acting like a true nice guy when he should be focusing on becoming a good man. All of the RPW literature in the world doesn't help you if the man you are applying the behavior strategies to is dangerous. If he's going to throw you at a subreddit and expect us to turn you into some wife who magically gives BJs on demand and swallows, he's sorely mistaken.

Please get out of that house. I know it sucks, but it's going to have to happen.