kiss me and loosens up my bra, and unbuttons my work shirt, then proceeds to get my pants and panties off, while kissing me. Now I was lost in the kissing

It seems that you were pretty "cooperative" during that whole process. And saying that you were "lost in the kissing" is only another way of saying that you liked the kissing. If you hadn't liked the whole situation, you wouldn't have liked the kissing. I can assure that no actual rape victim would claim that they were "lost in the kissing".

He then tells me that we are naked and I can't leave him like that. I look at him and say ok,

Honestly, did you belief that you couldn't just "leave him like that"? Did you?

Because you wrote:

was some how guilted into having sex

That is about the most half-hearted "guilt-trip" if I ever saw one. It seems to me that you were ready to say "okay" after having liked the kissing... I mean been "lost in the kissing".

It seems to me that you became only upset after the sex was painful -which it almost always is for the girl anyways, it doesn't mean that he was particularly rough. You also agreed by saying "ok" after a very,very half-hearted "guilt trip". So, it was not "rape"...at all.

Rape is forced sex. And not sex accepted by an "okay" after having been "lost in the kissing". Your boyfriend or ex-boyfriend sounds like an idiot and an asshole. I'll give you that. But you also chose to date him. So, I suggest that you not insult or degrade the experiences of women who have actually been forced into sex against their will, and that you not claim "rape" after your asshole of boyfriend wasn't loving and tender *after you accepted to have sex with him by saying "okay".