You seem to know something about this.

Something I just learned: she doesn't remember any of the times we had sex. We've had sex 5 times. The 3 I mentioned, once more about 2 months later, once more about 6 months later. We were talking and I mentioned "the 4th time" and she said "you know how many times we've fucked?" and it came out that she has no idea how many times. It's only 5.

I don't know what that might mean, but I think it means she shuts down during sex. Which indicates past trauma.

She's a very gentle person, the kind of person who would rather hurt herself than hurt you.

If you have insight into the import of this, please comment.