I have no idea what I am doing and truly hoping I'm not alone in that thought. I sometimes think that I should have dated more when I was younger, instead of focusing on my education, but I wasn't ready. Now I'm ready in my early 30s and I don't know the rules of the game that is dating. When did dating become a game? Why cant we just be upfront, show your interested, share your feelings? Stop this whole thing of stringing people along when you have no intention of moving forward. Have an adult conversation and stop with the ghosting, soft ghosting and pulling a Casper. If you aren't interested, it's okay to say so. Though I guess you ghosting really is an answer. I'm not giving up, just confused.lol and definitely working on overthinking everything.

That said I do have a couple specific questions: is it normal for a guy to start off really excited about texting and talking and then as time goes on become quiet? He used to ask me to come over all the time, now he's always on call and when I asked him out he said " sure". Is sure a no?

Thank you for reading and please be kind, I'm new here!