I moved in with my fiancé after like two months of dating because my mother’s boyfriend was abusive. He slept over at my mum’s house because it was my mother’s birthday and he got her some gifts, and before my mother woke up her boyfriend had started on me. He was screaming because I came downstairs in my pjs instead of being dressed (I was making my mother breakfast in bed). He banned my partner from the house (which wasn’t his house to do so), was standing over me which he knew was triggering for me, grabbed my face to force eye contact (I’m autistic) etc. we went back into my bedroom and he was texting his mum about the whole situation because I was so close to his mum and she was helping me a lot emotionally and we had planned to go over there after my mum opened her presents because it was his cousin’s birthday too and my mother’s boyfriend said I wasn’t allowed in the house at a certain time. I was crying, very obviously traumatised because of previous abuse, and he looked at me and said “you don’t have to do this anymore” kinda thing. His mum said to pack my things because there’s no way she’s letting me go through this anymore. That was nearly 5 years ago. I have such a close relationship with him and his family, and I finally have a good relationship with my mother because I was able to put boundaries in place. It’s not always about your relationship or sex or whatever. Sometimes it’s a safety thing.