This. I’ve had probably half my jobs where they’ve offered me a glass of wine or beer with dinner or after the kids asleep. I’ve taken the opportunity twice.

Once, I had a sip of this very strange wine they wanted me to try, when at my cousin’s because they were family and my second cousin was 8 years old and firmly asleep. The other time was with a NF for 3M when both MB and DB were home and I was staying the night because MB and I were going on a trip the next day. MB also had a glass of wine and we gossiped about the mean ladies at the park.

My current NF has a “no drinking on duty” policy, but if I was there for a party (in the before times) I would be welcome to a glass.