I agree but I think not every trans guy gets dysphoric about dating someone who doesn’t date cis men. People can have valid reasons not to date cis men, it’s not always a red flag. And genitalia preference is obviously valid. Despite that I steer clear of them for self-preservation, but I get why some of us don’t mind. I get a lot of dysphoria whenever someone that doesn’t date cis men says they’re attracted to me. That’s because being a man is a much bigger part of my identity than being trans, and I wish I had a dick so bad that it makes no sense they’d like me, bc the “real me” has a dick, so it’s not really me they’re attracted to, does that make sense ? I’ve had experiences where women will tell me they’re lesbians and are attracted to me all in the same sentence. I’m very cis-passing, so I’m confused obviously... When I say “so you’re not a lesbian” they go “I am, you’re just the exception”. Sigh… So, to avoid that, I make sure there’s a clear barrier between me and women who don’t date cis men. To me it always feels like I’m not being seen, like the genitalia I’d rather have doesn’t matter to them so long as I don’t actually have it… feels disrespectful given the struggle it is to have the wrong body