Be super cautious today. Q people have an expectation for half time at super bowl with some "big communication" and the cognitive dissonance is real. I have an old dear friend who randomly sends me screenshots "to protect me" and when these things don't come to fruition her attitude gets pretty defensive. I stopped engaging and asking for sources. My friendship is not comparable to your marriage so I can only suggest marital counseling and avoiding hot topics right now. There are stages of grief - anticipate seeing them all and remember that it is not you that is broken. The images I've been sent and have seen are traumatic and tough to forget (as in physically ill) so I cannot imagine what your spouse has seen or heard doing "research"