What the fuck? I met two ESFPs my entire life directly face 2 face, in both cases, we started an argument within 2 minutes of interacting. How can you call ESFPs best friends? or even friends? They are the pinnacle of human race stupidity and the germs that feast upon absurdity and ignorance only to spread it further.
As an INTJ, you're practical, your goals matter most and your worldly view, sometimes you won't even care about yourself or your goals, you're gonna be sick of this world and you will never ever be able to justify why someone is worth your empathy and feelings and support if you don't even like yourself.
This sheer perfectionism will render you mostly detached from everybody and a lot of times yourself, you believe what you cannot refute and you cannot refute that this living thing called life is yours and yours alone, nobody can achieve things for you, when you feel hollow nobody can fill you up, not your goals, not your dreams, nothing, you'll sooner or later realize that even the brightest people who are definitely not ESFPs and are most INTJs/INTPs, these people won't be able to project a speck of light inside the darkness in your mind.
You'll reach a point when you question your questions and by doing so reach the conclusion that there are no conclusions, everybody's sticking to something, everybody's living their own lies and it would just be better for you to live no lies and to believe in almost nothing.
This may seem depressing but the moral of the story is, ESFPs will never see that, most people won't see that, we're given the illusion of humanity and empathy, yet both are overrated, love is the need to be appreciated and filling your emptiness with some kind of feeling or meaning, whilst empathy is nothing but the notion of you insinuating yourself in someone else's shoes, it's always about us, it will always be, we're all about survival and nobody cares, if your friends lost you, they wouldn't miss you, they'd miss how you made them feel, what you did for them, who you were.... FOR THEM.
If you wanna make friends or whatever, at least let it be someone other than a fucking ESFP LOL, they're the polar opposite of you.