I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, lived with him most of this time.

We have a bit of an age gap; I'm 28, he's 35. He's been very open about his past. I guess I fall into the mindset of "ignorance is bliss"; he'd give almost too much detail about irrelevant stuff, but obviously I'd want to know important things...like how many times exactly he's been divorced. Since he's a bit older it's not totally shocking that he's been married before.

The problem is this: I've always understood that he had been married young, right before he deployed. It was a very short term thing and by time he got back the divorce was done. Okay, fair enough. Chalk it up to young and dumb.

A few months ago we were on the subject of marriage and he said something that led me to think he had been engaged more than once. I questioned, I couldn't get a straight answer. If anything I thought it was a failed engagement. He's a very straight forward person but gets side tracked easily. I [stupidly] blamed that.

Yesterday I got my answer: he was married once more, for two years. A bit more serious than the first. I asked why he didn't make this crystal clear, especially when I had asked him before. He first said he didn't want it to blow up into an issue, like it now has, but now he's claiming he did tell me and it must be a misunderstanding. I am adamant that he didn't.

I am having a hard time with this for all the reasons one could imagine. If I knew this off the bat it would've been no problem. I know it doesn't really directly impact our relationship. I guess I just feel confused. My question, I guess, is this something worth looking past? Am I wrong to feel confused? Any insight is welcome. I hope all of this made sense.