I'm married, and have been in my relationship for 10 years. Self-awareness and relationship dynamics are kinda my thing. Studied formally and passively for about 20 years now.

My husband and I talk to each other about PLENTY of things the other one isn't particularly interested in. We both remain engaged and ask questions about the subject matter, even if it isn't exactly our thing. Sometimes he'll tell me something about a game or show or some other thing that I think is a little strange, but if he is talking about it, it's worth my time because I love him and vice-versa. Like, my work doesn't particularly interest him, but he still wants me to talk about my day. Same goes for him. My husband is an academic, and some of the topics of conversation surround his studies. I don't always understand 100% of what's going on, but I

When you love someone, you care at least a BIT about what it is that they do, watch, enjoy, learn, experience, and you want to know their thoughts about it. The fact that he's completely dismissing you to the point where he's gaslighting you to tell you that you're blowing things out of proportion is a massive red flag to me. I personally wouldn't stand for it.

The people providing you advice here are... mind-boggling. Being in a relationship (a good, healthy one) means engaging with your partner, even if it's on topics that hold little interest or relevance to you. I'd say if he keeps up him habit of dismissing you, you should probably go find someone who is a little more engaged in your interests. He sounds annoyingly detached. This doesn't matter to some people, but it would bother me just as it sounds like it's bothering you. You deserve to get the attention you want out of a relationship.

It's one thing to not enjoy a show or a game your partner watches. It's another thing altogether to dismiss or ignore when your partner is talking about something that matters to them.