I think I understand what point she was trying to make, except, I think I was misunderstood by her. I wasn't seeking validation that I was a tiny girl too or wondering whether I should lose weight. I am losing weight, but I feel this way, and think it is detrimental to my goals, my mental state, and even the relationship itself because it makes me feel extremely insecure and I think we can all agree, it is a relationship killer. I was seeking advice from people who may have had similar experiences and then dealt with it successfully or who could offer a perspective I lacked. All of you did. Even if I was 15 pounds lighter, I still do not think I would look as tiny as the girls in the videos because I have big boobs and hips. Therefore, I would probably still have felt very hurt, however irrational that hurt is. He did not do anything wrong. I just simply feel this way and am trying to rationalize my thoughts so as to not get stuck on it because nothing wrong was done but still feel a certain way because of it. I am sure a lot of women can relate to the feeling or men have had their women feel similarly and that's the information I was seeking. I also wanted to ask because as other said, if it is a variety thing (and it most likely is), then I will have to deal with the feeling even if I do become more petite and he goes on a porn kick that involves women who are then the opposite of petite. I can't be EVERY type of woman he likes, and am seeking advice on how to cope with that simple truth. So, basically, though it may have seemed like the main point of the post was "OMG my bf likes petite women (like most other men out there)!!!", it was more of a: Please help me stop taking this personally and move on from it and focus on being my healthiest, happiest self.