No one is soliticiting me, but this is what I've learned over the years, like it or not:

Balance is key, but what that looks like on each team and across each industry will be different--context is 70% of the equation. Hold no expectations, no matter what you're told--it'll save you stress, no doubt (this is important and difficult if you're the anxious type). Be flexible enough to jump ship when you know things are out of balance--this means creating healthy relationships because the ecosystem has been pretty firm on it's priorities: 1. who you know, 2. what you've done, 3. how you act, 4. what you're willing to do, 5. what you don't know, 6. what you do know--your education doesn't necessarily translate to what you've "done" to everyone, but if you're reading this then you probably have that experience under your belt already. You're also probably too idealistic, tho I'd guess it frustrates you to hear that.

You aren't "the main character", even when you act like it and even when people tell you that you are. My point is, without getting metaphysical, that you need to "calm down". Not because it will sterilize or pacify you, but because it makes all of your intentions that much easier to follow through on. When we strain too hard we get hurt and break, but if we can see clearly enough to find the appropriate path of least resistance (read:this does not mean exploitation, nor is it to be interpreted as advocating for exploitation, and should you choose to read it as such then I'd suggest therapy), then we can accomplish our goals without undue and unjust sacrifice. Yes, you can "be ok". Yes, even you with the difficult/oppressed background. Ironically, if you're mad priveleged and reading this, it'll be harder for you than the ones who aren't so well off to do this.

Also, def turn off notifs when you're off. You'll be doing them a favor too, tho they won't know it, at least at first.