I think some people like to know that they always have someone to go back to. They have this mindset that "hey I can go out and date person X or person Y and if that doesn't work out I know person Z (you) will always be there".

In fact this happened to me recently with a girl I've known for over 8 years, and someone who I consider to be one of the few people I trust.

We basically told each other one night that we were interested in dating one another. So I obviously asked her out, and of course she said yes.

It came down to the day we were supposed to go out..... and then she ignored me. Didn't say she couldn't go, she just ignored me. Keep in mind this is not a random girl I met on Tinder, she's one of my good friends.

Months pass by, and we start talking again around New Years. We go out for drinks, and she said more things again to indicate I should ask her out.

Well maybe she was just nervous about going the first time.

I asked her out again... she couldn't go on the initial day I came up with so we rescheduled to later in the week. That day came, and can you guess what happened?

I got ignored again.

No call, or text. In fact this was a few days ago, and I basically sent a "what the fuck" text, which I know won't get a response.

I understand why people ignore others when dating. She doesn't owe me anything, and if she didn't say yes in the first place I wouldn't care. But the fact that we're good friends, and she basically encouraged me to ask her out drives me nuts.

I can predict with 10000% certainty that in a few months I'll hear from her again.

TLDR: People suck sometimes, and I sympathize with you.