Some personal context:

I'm a quiet early-30s man. I have a calm life. I watch Jeopardy!, go to bed early, and wake up early. I'm the type of person who rarely speaks to someone first, but when approached I'm friendly and very chatty. I'm not ugly, I'm not attractive either; I'd say I'm average (at best).

Anyway, I haven't been on a date in 10 years. Time just got the better of me, I guess. I suppose I also thought it would be nice if I were approached by an interested party - well, fat chance of that!

I've tried online stuff and app stuff, without success.

However, I'm horny. Very often, like many of you. But I'm tired of porn, just because I'm finally accepting me as I am (average) and I feel porn, quite often, does not represent me nor anything average.

I'm also not so interested in masturbating. I let my wet dreams take care of emptying the tank as necessary. I masturbate sometimes, just not often anymore.

I would say I'm happy and quite satisfied with my life, perhaps because I've accepted that this is, most likely, the way life will be for me. But I am fine with my work and routine and friends and the fun things I do!

Am I just in a rut? Am I heading down the road of asexuality (and there's nothing wrong with that, I suppose)?

Couples and coupledom is so important in society. But is my reality the reality of more people than I realize?

I appreciate feedback and discussion.

Thanks.