Mine, I had been keeping my wife's secret about her illness to myself for about 12 years. My wife would talk to her mom but she didn't want to openly discuss it so I never really got to say anything. I have several issues myself about my family, like most people I assume and so have always found it difficult to bond with my wife's family So on a rare occasion when I was invited to my wife's family event, I think it was a birthday, I finally seen my wife with all her family and I was overcome by emotion. I felt myself getting ready to cry so I went outside so no one could see me and I started crying and I couldn't stop. Someone must have seen me because my wife and brother in law came up to me and asked what's wrong with me. I couldn't even answer, I could tell my brother in law felt embarrassed because he had a lot of friends over so I told my wife I wanted to go home. She was hesitant but eventually we loaded up in the van and I was still sobbing and trying to hide my face. My wife asked if I really wanted to go and i felt so bad I wanted to go but I was really embarrassed because now everyone was standing outside looking at us because I am just crying alot. I told her to drop my off at Carl's Jr and that maybe I would calm down after a bit. We were on our way when I told her let's just go home because I didn't want anyone to see me crying like this. Seeing my wife with all her family, I just couldn't get the idea that the next time we all got together might be for something bad. I am one if those "don't be a pussy" guys so I don't get sad that much, really bad idea but it's my cross. I am not trying to make anyone look bad, I would have been like WTF too. Needless to say I don't really visit anymore, I know I won't cry again but I feel embarrassed and not so welcome because I freaked out.