Even though my friends can speak Chinese, we speak English to each other and talk about American things (tv, music, etc). As a kid, not being able to speak Chinese well didn't appear as a big issue to me so i never asked them to teach me, and they probably wouldn't have anyway. And i don't relate to my own culture. Growing up, we didn't have festive family gatherings and I'm not close too my family so i don't get the importance of Chinese New year. If anyone asks me, i tell them I'm American. As to why I'd wish my grandma a happy New year and not my dad is because she's old and super nice and easier to talk to. Also, i know that it's possible to work 11 hours a day and 6 days a week yet STILL be an active parental figure. My boyfriend's parents both work the same type of job yet he managed to go to the doctor's and and pick up his report card as a child. I just think my father isn't a good father figure. Even if he couldn't be take me to the doctor's and such, he didn't make an effort to get to know me on a personal level to make up for it.