I kinda get where your bf is coming from worrying about the DMs and stuff. I don’t think we have that problem though. I’m mostly fine with what she does. She did have a private Instagram account that she doesn’t use anymore but that definitely made me feel a little sketched out.

The main thing is Snapchat. I don’t know how to be cool with it after the issue we had. I commented about that a minute ago. It seems so sneaky and there’s no accountability. It makes me so uncomfortable.

I can tell sometimes if my male friends and I are messaging/Snapchatting/Instagramming/etc. too much he starts to get jealous. So I try to show him what they're sending me to ease his nerves

I actually suggested this! Not in a “show me everything “ controlling way, but exactly like you said. “Hey this is funny or look at this pic”. Not to disprove but to normalize things. I share with her so much about what me and my friends and family are talking about and she still never does. It makes me assume the worst to be honest.