The upper left part of my body is significantly deformed, my chest has a few strangely shaped ribs, my left arm is about 10cm shorter than my right and I don't have a thumb on my left hand, and my face is quite assymetrical, with the most visible deformity being my left ear which is nearly non-existant. I'm lucky enough though that all of these things are almost entirely visual and hardly limit my functioning at all.

In my own experience if I don't make a big deal out of it then other people won't either. Profesionally it's fairly easy to stay confident and not let it affect my work, and the same with friends and family actually. I don't talk about sex with them all that much, but I think that has more to do with the type of friends than with desexualization. Usually if the topic of sex/relationships comes up I just don't engage that much, since I don't have much of a relationship history to speak of I try to avoid the topic altogether. I've come to accept that the whole clubbing / dating scene is just not for me - but the same is true for plenty of people without any disabilities. I'd much rather play board games or have some beers and conversations anyway.

Last year (age 29) I was lucky enough to meet my current (and first) girlfriend through online dating, which I'd nearly given up on. She doesn't care all that much about my looks, she does think I'm sexy sometimes, and I think just accepting my own body and being confident in it makes it a lot easier for her to accept it as well. And this is true in all situations and scenarios, it's much more attractive to stand with straight shoulders and display my deformities like it's the most normal thing in the world, than trying to hide and cover up any parts that look irregular.