First: Had a final talk how it wasn't working. He returned my things, we told one another how much we apprecated each other as human beings and have enjoyed our time. Made apologies, made a pact to go no contact for a few months until we could be friends. That was when I was a teenager, still friends.
Second: Same thing. Had a discussion how I wanted to stop being casual, he wanted things casual and it no longer made sense. He tried to come back that he was ready for something serious but by that time, realized it was best we didn't talk. Went no contact for a few months, still friends.
Third: Defintely not healthy, on and off- a lot of fighting, he cheated and admitted to manipulating, I was selfish, a lot of passion too but in the end had to door slam. He called a few months later looking to try things but shut it down. We had a nice talk about how wonderful things were once between us and how we wouldn't replace them. Apologized. We went no contact for awhile and once in a blue moon, we hear from one another. We keep distance.
Fourth: Broke up suddenly in a fight, thought we were going to get back together for literally months, talked everyday, told me he still had feelings but "maybe". Keep postponing and stopped calling. We had a talk awhile ago how it was going to be a long time if it was going to happen. Took a break from talking, got over it, dating new people but he still doesn't call. By far the most unhealthiest. He will never know how awful it was those months just waiting, distracting yourself, wondering what was wrong with me, how I could improve, unable to connect to others despite wanting too, feelin disloyal for talking let alone dating others, wanting to be together, wanting to just be friends, talk, listen, wondering. Whatever though. Honestly, been trying to be patient but he is probably heading for a permanent doorslam. At least with my super turbulent relationship, he owned up and didn't purposely waste my time. This dude.. I dunno,know went wrong a lot of places but won't even explode. Just disappear. Disgusted at myself for believing in him. Disgusted at him.