In all sincerity I feel as if you've misunderstood me. I am not clamoring to make anyone change. I mentioned a risk and a concern about that risk. I did not address the right or wrong of sex in any way. My words are not condemnatory.

If a person wishes to change, either toward homosexuality or toward heterosexuality, it seems to me that any help might be a good thing. One need not be ruled by desire. Of any kind.

Poverty is the main problem with crime, not skin color. That is wrong and loving people should want that to change.

As to why someone might want to change. If we are free beings, we might well not want to be slaves to our desires but rather be in control if the kind of life we wish to live.

This is the opposite of coercion. Being free to alter your desires gives you control over your life. It could become a choice, so you could live what life you intend to without being driven by desires you'd rather control.

I'm not talking about changing you. I'm talking about changing me.

I am married. I was not a virgin at marriage. I had a porn habit. Now, though, I want to be faithful, just as before I wanted to be celibate. I would welcome anything that could help me be as I wish to be rather than being constrained by my desires. The fact is that what I want to do and what I desire are at odds.

For you they are not at odds, presumably. But for those for whom they are, freedom and assistance to find that freedom would be good.

It would not be good to simply say I like porn and the idea of sleeping with other women, so I have no choice but to do those things. It is I who have chosen these aims, not anyone else. For many porn is of no concern. For me it is, so I want to gain mastery over my desires rather than being slave to them.

It's about freedom.

I am not nor have I suggested that you should change. I began by examining the situation as I see it. My position is anything that helps a person become as they wish to be can't be a bad thing.

I might express concern to anyone about any behavior, but the topic was homosexuality, not one I chose.

I think if you are looking for bigotry in my words you'll have put them there yourself. I don't feel any antipathy. I strive to understand.

I am sorry you found offense in my words. That offense was very certainly not intended. I am endeavoring to be as respectful as I am able.