I am in the same situation with basically the same timeframes, and I actually came into the same situation with starting dating again a few weeks ago

The only difference for me was that I somehow managed to cum, by trying different positions and finding one that works better than the others (though still not too easy)

There actually are positions that I really like visually and stuff but where I have basically zero stimulation so I can't enjoy it physically.

I had heard of the death grip and my partner hadn't so I just explained it and she understood it. She also started to incorporate oral when she decided that she had enough for the session cause for some reason that still absolutely works