You're right, there is no rush. And if I could go back in time and make it so we never tried the class and wait a year, I would. I feel like I'm stuck now , because telling her "It's Ok that you are nervous sweety, you don't have to do it" would also be bad. I feel that would be teaching her that is OK to give into her nervousness.

We talked a LOT since the first class. I talked about how being brave is not the absence of fear or nervousness, but doing what needs to be done in spite of fear or nervousness. And she understood, she is a smart kid.

She was nervous and crying in Kindergarten, and ended up loving it. She was nervous going out and playing with the neighbor kids when we moved to our new house, but now they are besties. She was nervous when going to her first friends birthday party, cried at the door, but ended up loving it and making lots of new friends. She was nervous starting first grade, but now she loves it. Last month I enrolled her in an after school science class (she loves science) she was super nervous, and she went only ended up going after learning that one of her friends was in it, and she ended up loving it.

She watched the kids, all having a great time in the class. She noticed they were all having a good time. They were all doing things that she wanted to try. So it's hard for me to let her NOT try it because she is nervous. I know it's hard to explain without knowing my daughter. It would be different if we went to the class and she observed and told me "Daddy I don't think I want to try this it just doesn't interest me". Then I would be Ok no problem, you don't have to. But she is basically saying "I really want to do it, it looks fun, but I'm too nervous." It wouldn't matter if its, bellet, Jiu Jitsu or an after school program. As far as the high ropes scenerio, I wouldn't make her do that. If she told me, I don't want to do that because I'm affraid of heights or I'm afraid to get her, that is a legitimate reason and I would'nt make her. But in this scenerio there is no obvious danger, she really wants to do it, the only thing is she is fabricating this nervousness that she doesn't understand herself.

I highly respect your opinion and I will take that into consideration. I think we are going to do the 1 private lesson on Monday and see how she feels about it. If she participates in the private lesson and decides she doesn't like it, then maybe that will give me an "out" where I can say "OK that counts as trying it, you don't have to try the class part"