As a girl, Guy’s pair up as fast as they can do they don’t have to pair with me. What do I do different?

…. Yes I tried to reply to like 50 messages when I got home… I had a lot of topics to RE-cover with comments like yours that accuse me of being rude and mean and calling people names when I was very clear in my story that I was using descriptive words. If I sound jumbled maybe it’s because I’m scrambling to be nice to you when all you wrote was two seperate comments to me to say people avoiding me at my gym is because I’m an asshole and it’s my fault. Explaining myself comes with posting and me being in the middle of sorting out and brainstorming the situation. “All over the place” does fit me. But using it as an insult isn’t very nice. I’m trying to cover every base right now, I’m trying to think big, I’m trying to over communicate and understand everything that was happening in this post and these comments people gifted me with.

You however. You actually may have been projecting with saying someone else besides you is judgy. You might have some cognitive dissonance and uncomfortableness in yourself or that you’ve been told to have where you think no one should be judgy, yet you are judgy yourself. I did alot of therapy in my lifetime and I can’t recommend it enough for you if you’re triggered or upset a lot. At this point though I think you’ll also dislike that I’m saying this to you still. You perhaps wanted to say your multiple unkind things and drift my algorithm how you felt and then move on after saying I’m a bad person. I figure you’ll read this and be angry for some reason when I’ve really just been trying to explain myself to you so you won’t be angry or pissy with me anymore.

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